I know I am going to be a very chill bride from the start.
Even when my friends warned me continuously about wedding stress, the 'inevitable big fights' when the pressure gets real, and the amount of responsibilities and planning.. Guess what? so far I have experienced none of that drama, everything just unfolds perfectly. But with that being said, to be a bridechilla you do need to take meticulous planning and effort too. There is no such thing as blind luck or wishing for the best. You work for what you want.
This is what works for me :
1. Start early
I cannot stress this enough. Do your research early, and know your style. You dont have to decide what you want immediately, but do enough research to know what you dont want. That way, you dont waste time being indecisive. Set a budget, pin point the vendors that you like and voila.. just like that, you have a solid starting point.
2. Ditch the concept of perfection
This is a mindset that has helped me stay on the bridechilla track lolll. There is no such thing as perfect wedding. If 'perfect' is your benchmark, you are setting yourself up for failure. Do the best that you can, and just let things unfold.
3. Know your priorities
I used to have a wedding wishlist. But as I get older my priorities change, and now I lean more towards convenience and practicality. For instance, I have my heart set out in Paris for my prewedding session , that was one of my priorities and non negotiable he he. The rest I am pretty practical when deciding.
4. Delegate
The things that I dont need to manage, I let others manage. This is why investing on a good EO is one of my top priorities. I literally told my EO to just give me a checklist and make sure I am on track. I cant take credit for being chill, its just that I am good at deciding which task I need to focus on, and letting others handle the rest. In terms of planning the miscellaneous (invitation design, bouquet, entertainment), some might be surprised but I am truly not particular about the type of flowers, the design, the color pallete.. basically I am just open to suggestions. I just go with the flow and once I made a decision I store it away and dont look back. I know the decisions I made will ultimately reflect my personality. However kaleidoscope(d) it might be.
I dont really care for how 'perfect' my wedding is going to be. I'd rather focus on making my big day comfortable and memorable for me rather than for other people - and that itself takes away a lot of pressure. And if things outside my control went outside the plan, then so be it. ( I love this phrase! Ive been using it all the time to the point it drives my friends crazy loll).
Just remember, weddings take up only a day of your life for others to see, it is marriage that is truly worth celebrating.
Now this is something that we cannot be 'chill' about as it takes effort to earn and build a strong relationship, every single day.
The commitment, to have and to hold, to love and to cherish, through sickness and in health.
Focus on the things that truly matter.
(Disclaimer - opinions are purely my own and what works for me, there is no right or wrong mindset for wedding planning)
