La Vi En Rose
10/15/24
Nightingale
10/10/24
on friendships .
9/30/24
September
As productive as this month has been, it has not been my favorite month for a lot of personal reasons.
"Life is easier if you are stupid. "
I had this conversation once with a friend, and both of us agreed people who has less awareness than the average - who exists in their own little bubble and is unaware of how their actions impacted others, has it easier in life.
I swear I am not always as contemplative as my current streak of heavy posts might suggest LOL (I even archived a few recent posts because it feels too deep). I only like blogging when I have something to get off my chest, but afterwards I rarely think of it again once I get it out of my system.
I like to think of it as something similar to the INFJ doorslam, because while I am all about deep feelings and connections, I find it relatively easy to cut things/people off my life when lines are crossed, especially when I know I have done all that I could. Its just absolute indifference afterwards, no energy to even hold any hatred or grudge.
I dont like lingering in problems that have no solution. But it just gives me sick satisfaction to go over every single detail , analyzing it in all angles before moving on from it completely.
Anyways, I digress.
Maybe 'stupid' is the wrong word to use, but Ive always admired people who are blissfully ignorant, oblivious to anything but themselves. Sometimes, people really fascinate me.
What is it like, to live life not thinking about your consequences? What is it like, to exist feeling so entitled like its your world, everyone else is just side characters in it? To live life with no empathy and no self awareness at all, would that be a curse or a blessing?
9/18/24
The things you learn as you get older
1. Prioritizing peace over everything.
To be at peace with all that happens and what will happen. To remember that nothing is permanent and I am here to learn and grow. As I get older the more I lean towards a calm and cozy life, filled with good people and the things that truly matter.
I like the idea of focusing on things that fuels my soul while detaching from situations I cannot control. Life is actually not that complicated.
I love this quote : "The peace that I am aiming for is worth everything and everyone that I will lose in the process. "
2. You naturally gravitate towards people of the same frequency. You will lose people, but gain even more.
It does not matter how long you've known this person or how recently acquainted. Early twenties are for exploring and discovering your true self. Your life might be the most volatile at this stage, dipping your toe here and there, moving countries for degrees, starting a new job, jumping into the dating pool..
When you hit your quarter life, and your prefrontal cortex reaches full maturity at the ripe age of 25 (for most people, some just stop growing altogether), you have a sense of who you are becoming. You know what you like and dont like - what you can tolerate, what sparks joy in your heart, what you look for in a friend and partner. You start to make solid decisions for yourself instead of being spoon fed by other people's biases. You discover aspects of your personality traits and your own personal principles.
And you begin to realize, the people you grow up with does not necessarily share the same values in life. And that is completely okay. You will find your people :)
3. SPF is the most important step in your skincare regime
No words needed
4. At the end of the day, you are on your own.
I meant this in the most positive and liberating way. You alone decide how you deal with life. You alone can decide the narrative of your story. No one should have the power to affect you mentally and emotionally. No one owes you anything, and you don't owe anyone anything.
As Taylor Swift likes to say, "you are on your own, kid"
The Law of Detachment comes in handy here ( I know Ive mentioned this so many times but this has been the turning point in my life)
In my personal opinion, it is better to rely on your own two feet, to know that no matter what life hurdles you face, you can get back up. This is why it is important to actually like yourself and make sure the voices in your head is positive. Especially in your late twenties.
After all, what you think dictates how you will live.
5. Self care does not mean self sabotage
These days 'self care' has been so over-gratified but the at the same time the pendulum can swing too much it turns to self sabotage. When you sleep in or skip work in the name of 'self care', or you make decisions that gives immediate gratification but have negative outcomes in the long run... is that really self care? or is it more to self indulgent? Every decisions I made for the betterment of my life has been a decision made from self care. And all of them have been HARD.
9/7/24
Law of detachment
9/6/24
Why joker is my favourite movie
In my pursuit to get out of my writer's block I asked a friend to name a random and specific title (word to word) for me to write. What started out as a joking response made me realize I do have a lot to say about this. And since Im not one to shy away from challenges (no matter how stupid it is) , here goes nothing.
A disclaimer - I dont read the DC comics universe and it has been ages since I watched Nolan's Batman (as much as I love Heath Ledger). When I talk about the joker, I am specifically referring to Joaquin Phoenix's adaptation.
I like complex characters. I like analyzing behavior and realizing how things are not always black and white. I also like movies that makes you think. While the original Joker is portrayed as a psychopathic criminal mastermind, the latest movie turns the table around by adding in several factors into the mix. Crushing loneliness, depression, childhood trauma, mental disorder, outcasted from society. It humanizes Joker and allows us to empathize with him. The longing for connection, the need for validation.
With the perspective of the movie, drawing you in through empathy for his tragic life, there is a new, proposed reality that somehow his actions .. we can understand where they stem from.
This makes you think :
'' at the very core, we are social beings with basic instincts and needs. If pushed beyond the edge. every one of us may be capable of great evil".
Or at the very least it makes me think : "are we all inherently evil? or are we simply the victim of circumstances?".
DISCLAIMER : I still think the Joker is a murderous psychopath. Its just interesting how a movie could somehow extract empathy from the audience by turning narrative of the greatest villain of all time into a misunderstood victim.
also side note : never asking friends for random post challenges anymore.
9/3/24
highlights
This feels so highschool. But here goes the highlights of my month
1. Rhythm Class
Did not expect to love Rhythm class this much! Signed up purely from curiosity but stayed for the post workout endorphins. Not a gym junkie or health enthusiast, just beginning to be mindful with what I do and put in my body.
2. Recent read
Not my most recent read but the book that made it to one of the top reads of the year. I have rekindled my love for fiction, to have that feeling when you stay up all night just because you cant put down a good book.
3. Matcha everything
Nightingale
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